I pray over what I write and recently wrote a blog that I thought was inspirational but there was something inside of me saying I may want to get a second opinion. I did what I usually do when I have questions and emailed it to my mentor. He assured me there was nothing theologically wrong with my blog. Once I told him my concern about it possibly being judgmental, he did agree. We talked a bit more and I asked Him what we do when a loved one appears to be straying too far away from God. As he usually does, he answered me with another question or two. Where in the Bible did Jesus ever point out someone's sin? Did He condemn them for what they were doing or did He love them?
I cannot recall any instance, except maybe with the Pharisee's that Jesus ever rebuked anyone and even then, the Pharisee's were asking questions of Jesus. The one story about the woman at the well, I thought would be an example. I took time to read that further and no, Jesus did not point out her sinful actions and only agreed that her statement was true that she didn't have a husband. He did proceed to say she had 5 husbands and the 1 living with her was not her husband and agreed again that what she said was true. He did not dwell on her sin but continued to explain who He was and what future she could have by believing and following Him.
The advice I was given was to pray for my loved one and to love them as Jesus set the example for us to do. So when you aren't sure what to do, remember love is always the answer. It's better to remain silent, pray and show love than to say something that will turn someone away not only from you but from Christ forever.
Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins. (1 Peter 4:8)